When we think about relationships, we usually think about how we relate to our friends, family, and significant other(s). We have connection with everything around us. What would happen if you took the time to notice the connectedness in your life? Do you consider that you also have relationship with/to: the cashier at the grocery store other drivers/cyclists/pedestrians co-workers/clients ...
svadhistana - the right to feel, the power of relationships “Happiness comes from between. It comes from getting the right relationship between yourself and others, yourself and your work, and yourself and something larger than yourself.” — Jonathan Haidt “Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos—the trees, the clouds, everything.”—Thích ...
I haven't written in a while - but this is a start. As fall was settling in, and since my sister's death, I've retreated. This has been an assessment period. My energy has been low - and I've been looking at where I need to cut back and stop leaking energy. I know I have ...
I know it all starts with breathing, gratitude, and letting go of what cannot be changed. And feeling, and moving, and letting the feelings move, and taking action—even if they are tiny.
A few strokes in a new direction and I know the water will be just fine.
"For a Yogi, nothing is impossible. If something seems impossible, turn it to something difficult. From difficult to something easy. From something easy, to Realization." Swami Vishnu-devananda
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." Jim Rohn
When we are growing up, most of us do not have a choice about whom we spend our time with until we start making friends in school. We are surrounded and influenced by our families and/or caretakers. (Some people would argue that we do choose our families before we are born, and maybe that will work for this post as well. Whatever you believe is fine).
Think about the five people (human or animal or vegetable) you spend the most time with right now. Who are they? Do you deliberately spend time with them? Are they your loved ones? What about the people you work with? Do you have children? Basically, what is your relationship with these people? Are your relationships satisfying, inspiring, and vibrant? What is your choice in having these relationships - do you feel you have one?
List ten qualities that you like about each of the five people you spend the most time with. List ten qualities you don't like. Is there a pattern? Can you see yourself as a mirror to these people, and vice versa? Do any of the immediate five people in your life inspire you? Do any of the relationships drain you? Is there anything you'd like to change about the dynamics of your relationships? Are there any people you'd like to spend more time with? Less time with? Is it possible to make subtle shifts to allow new people into your sphere of influence?
If you'd like to look back at your childhood, you may also do this same exercise with your family. What ten qualities did you like about the people in your life then, what ten qualities did you not like? Are the dynamics of your early sphere of influence affecting your current sphere of influence?
Who do you wish to surround yourself with? What do you imagine their qualities to be? Are they qualities you already possess, or qualities you aspire to have? What kinds of steps can you take in order to make those changes?
I'd love to hear your responses - feel free to comment!