Born on a Thursday #4 – This Pie is Skewed

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This pie is skewed.

I was thinking about a conversation I’d had about a decade ago with a man whom  I experienced as intelligent, generous, and open-minded. He was an ecological activist who was working diligently for water conservation and clean water laws; he came to a few goddess performance rituals I took part in; and he was a musician who practiced yoga.

I assumed he was progressive all around – until a conversation that went like this . . .

Me: “I asked for a raise.”

Him: “You can’t ask for a raise.”

Me: “Why not? I do good work, clients love me, and I beat deadlines. Besides, I know more about what our department is actually doing than the manager does.”

Him: “If you get a raise, you’ll be making almost as much as me.”

Me: “So what.”

Him: “So what? If women make the same amount of money as men, what will they need men for?”

Me: “What about LOVE? What about COMPANIONSHIP? What you just said is so sad.”

And I thought, damn, what a low self-esteem this guy has. And even more sadly, this is what men are taught – if not directly, then indirectly.

And women are taught this, too.

Question: How can there be love if we believe in inequality? How do we negotiate our worth if not through our wages? What do you personally value – and is it in accordance with society’s values or is it something more, or less, or different? (feel free to respond in the comments section)

If we only understood – we are stardust.

OVERVIEW from Planetary Collective on Vimeo.

Joni nails it.

  1. How true, but how odd that so many people do not see the necessity for equality. Things are gradually changing though, thankfully. James.

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