I could say a lot, but right now, I’m watching and listening.
Ok, I’ll say this. This is beautiful.
I love you.
“before a rush to judgment, rush to empathy” – Erika Wilmore
holly troy ~ sacred folly
imagination experiments of a stardust yogini
holly troy ~ sacred folly 
YES! That was a primary takeaway from my Brainspotting sessions… so that rather than being triggered, you straightaway did NOT take something personally, even if directed directly AT you… and powerfully witness a person trusting you enough to clearly state THEMSELF as YOU. In negative and intense versions, it’s manipulation. WIth narcissistic sociopaths, simply being calm in the storm provides a mirror reflecting all the vitriol back on the tormentor. There’s Mentor?Tormentor qualities to a lot of traumas associated with parents/bosses/etc, though… straight to empathy when someone is expressing something, even if they are hopped up mad… the simple thought unsaid of “Your words not mine” while you listen them out with patience not as passive, patience as focused power and strength… not waiting to pull the trigger… but in a sense holding the space from any toxifying impurities that you might accidentally pick a fight further with.
Like this one by Lao Tzu in “The Art of War”:
~ “Never interrupt your enemy when they are making a mistake.”
Like These two by Morihei Ueshiba, founder of Aikido, in “The Art of Peace”:
~ “Eight forces sustain creation: Movement and stillness; Solidification and fluidity; Extension and contraction; Unification and division.”
~ “As soon as as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ or ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weakens and defeats you.”
(Excerpted quotes from my “Stress Is Not the Issue” post)
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Brilliant, Jordan! Yes!
This is great – ~ “As soon as as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ or ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weakens and defeats you.”
YEs, and this – “and powerfully witness a person trusting you enough to clearly state THEMSELF as YOU.”
” patience as focused power and strength … not waiting to pull the trigger… but in a sense holding the space from any toxifying impurities that you might accidentally pick a fight further with.” Really good. Great way of putting it! A great thing to practice – not alway easy.
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🙂 Yes, not always easy, though I found with Brainspotting that once the trigger traumas are welcomed in (when they arrive or are called out when you electrify when putting your yes where they live) and engaged and addressed and heard and… integrate with their dissolution tingle cascades in various parts of the body, sometimes across the board…
It get’s easier. It gets to be a mode of Natural engagement rather than attempting to be wise in time in the moment.
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